My Sono-Ma: “Tracking” in Ragle Ranch’s Wild Space

“Point your body towards the sun.  Then, get your nose as close to the ground as you can,” instructs Sono-Ma friend and “sacred survivalism” guru Karla Gormely.  All three children immediately drop to their bellies onto the muddy path.  I cringe thinking I should have put Bryles in rain pants before we hit the trail, but I am in awe of how intensely interested the children appear.

“What do you see?” asks Karla.  The children remain silent.  “I see lots of circles, lines, and some bike tracks,” offers Phelan.  “Good,” says Karla.  “Now, what about animal footprints?  Do you see any tracks that you know?”  “Doggy paws!” says Phelan jumping up excitedly. “Can I draw it, mommy?”

Karla obliges his request by pulling out notebooks for her two kids.  She then offers her own observation notebook to Bryles so he can also try his hand at documenting the tracks he finds.

Soon all three children are silent again, intently working on drawing the different tracks they can identify.   While Bryles can wield a felting needle, card wool, bake bread, and use a hammer and saw, he’s rarely picked up a pencil or practiced drawing things he’s observed.  I glance over his shoulder to watch what he creates.

“Draw what you see,” directs Karla adding, “Don’t just draw something the way you think it should look.  Try to capture what is really before you.”  Bryles first follows along by drawing three small circles and one large circle.  The circles are in something of a linear fashion, but I can see he is feeling out the shapes of the dog paw.  His second drawing, again of the dog paw, includes circles but this time they more truly mirror the arrangement of the shapes on the ground.  As he is able to coordinate his hand and eye, his excitement grows.  “Let’s go find more!” he says to friend Phelan.

Soon, he’s on his third drawing – now of a horse shoe print.  His shape is spot on, and he’s detailing out things like nail impressions.

We hike on and Karla and I marvel at the children searching for other signs of animals in Ragle Ranch Park.  “Is that a bunny trail?” the children ask each other as they follow a tiny path leading through dried grass to a thicket of bushes.  They peak under the thicket, but don’t see a bunny.   However, they are most happy to move on to another search.  Stomping through mud puddles, swinging from low branches, and pausing at marshy spots to search for frogs, they seem to make endless exciting discoveries.  “Hey guys!  Come see this!” they shout back and forth, pausing only to take a short reverent glance at images like this creek scene:

“Isn’t this great?” I say to Karla as we follow the children weaving on and off the trail of Ragle’s 157 acres of woodlands, marshland and segments of the Atescedero Creek.   We both consider ourselves nature lovers, and while I can’t yet build a debris hut for shelter or find as many medicinal plants as Karla, I do believe that nature makes an incredible classroom and healing space.   We try to meet up to get the kids together for outside play and “gathering” as often as possible.   Together with our kids we’ve collected elderberries to make tincture syrups, lichens and moss for building fairy houses or dying wool, and we’ve picked blackberries for cobblers, pies, smoothies and more!

Ragle Ranch

You, too, can get your family outdoors.  Here follows a list of local parks and programs.  Also included is a list of books and on-line resources for connecting kids and nature.

Parks

Sonoma County’s regional parks offer great diversion for outdoor enthusiasts, with parks such as Ragle Ranch offering open-ended, nature spaces that encourage free play for young children and adults alike!

For more information on Ragle Park, please read our earlier My Sono-Ma story: Exploring Ragle Ranch Regional Park & Wild Spaces in Sebastopol California

We also enjoy climbing through the rocks and creek at Santa Rosa City’s Brush Creek Trail.  Read about our adventures here.

Local Programs

The “Buckeye Gathering” in Forestville, CA offers an incredible, local opportunity to learn wilderness skills as a whole family.  This week long event offers workshops for adults and a kid’s camp ages 5 (for children of attending adult guardians). Camp coordinators say, “What we offer has not always been known as ‘Primitive Skills’, ‘Traditional Arts’ ‘Wilderness Survival’ or ‘Earth Living’. At one time it was simply LIFE.”

Buckeye Gathering

http://buckeyegathering.net/joomla/index.php

Peter Bergen and Michelle Sauceda recently started “Outside In Nature” a children’s “Deep Nature Connection” program at Tara Firma Farms in Petaluma.  Two families from our Waldorf school enrolled their boys in the program.  These kids are practicing primitive skills such as creating fire with friction and how to build debris shelters.  They also get plenty of “dirt time” or “unstructured time in structured container” of the program’s “invisible school” model.  Read more about these inspiring ideas and models here.

Outside In Nature
707 225 2404
www.outsideinnature.com

Books

1.)  “Last Child in the Woods” and “The Nature Principle” by Richard Louv

“The immediacy of Richard Louv’s message in Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder galvanized an international movement to reconnect children with nature. Now, in The Nature Principle, Louv reaches even further with a powerful call to action for the rest of us. Richard Louv makes a convincing case that through a nature-balanced existence—driven by sound economic, social, and environmental solutions—the human race can and will thrive.” (via http://richardlouv.com/books/)

2.)  “Coyote’s Guide“…by Jon Young, Ellen Haas, and Evan McGown

“This is good medicine for nature deficit disorder. Coyote’s Guide should become the essential resource for anyone who wants to revive their sense of kinship with nature but needs some help. . .” Richard Louv, author of the national bestseller Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children From Nature Deficit Disorder, and chairman of the Children and Nature Network. (via http://owlinkmedia.com/store/books/coyote2/) 

3.)  Animal Tracking Basics by Jon Young

“This how-to book teaches the basics of being a successful tracker – explaining what to look for to find or identify an animal and how to develop an essential environmental awareness. Also describes aging tracks and sign, understanding ecology and mapping, keeping field notes, using track tools, and making casts. “ (via http://owlinkmedia.com/store/books/animal-tracking-basics/)

Links

1.)  “Let’s Get Outside” & Children and Nature Network:  http://www.childrenandnature.org/

2.)  Wilderness Awareness School:  http://wildernessawareness.org/

3.)  Forest Kindergartens at Waldorf Schools (e.g. Saratoga Springs Waldorf School) http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/30/nyregion/30forest.html

4.)  Mother Earth School (outdoor education led by trained Waldorf Teachers in Oregon) http://www.motherearthschool.com/index.shtml

5.)  Tom Brown Jr. Tracker School http://www.trackerschool.com/

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Rites of Passage: It’s Never Too Late…

Were you welcomed into Adulthood?

Did you receive a ceremony? Had a Mentor? Experienced a sense of belonging to your community as an equal member once you turned a certain age?

Most adults living today haven’t…

When I speak with Jewish folks who had a Bar or Bat Mitzvah, they, too, feel that it was lacking. Most say that learning Hebrew was a task that didn’t relate to their life as an adolescent, and that although they felt honored by their synagogue’s community, their feelings at the time weren’t addressed. Nor were their bodily changes, their hormone fluctuations, their confusion, or their budding sexuality…

Most adults I speak with tell me that their parents, teachers, and extended  community had no idea about what was really going on in their life during adolescence. Desperate acts such as excessive alcohol drinking, substance abuse, or shop lifting — have all gone unnoticed. Sexual advances from a boy on a date, or questions about sexual identity were not on the adults’ radar. Perhaps it is because these were all good students with high grades, that the adults surrounding them assumed all was well.

How can this happen?

How do parents believe that all is well in their adolescent child’s life while all the while their child  feels internally tortured? Why do they think that even though their child doesn’t talk with them, everything is actually fine?

It’s not that we, adults, don’t think of our children. We do, excessively sometimes. We worry about them: about their lack of conversation with us, about their social life, about the grades they bring home, about their future career and prospects.

None of the above meets the adolescent where they are, or truly sees them!

The obsessive thoughts we run through our heads are, lets admit it, mostly about us… Why they wouldn’t talk to us? Are we bad parents? Have we done something wrong? Would they grow up to be professional/successful/married/divorced like us?

We are so busy worrying about how our adolescent child’s behavior reflects on us as parents, on our parenting skills, on our ability to raise young people that would mirror our values to the world, that we forget to see them…!

We mistake Worry for Care…

We confuse our self esteem with theirs, and miss seeing them in the process!

What can we do differently?

As always, we need to start with self exploration, with a deep inquiry into who we each were as an adolescent girl, an adolescent boy, what did we need then from our parents (as oppose to what we need now from our children).

Remember how misunderstood you felt by Mom or Dad? How distant they felt to you? Get into the skin of the adolescent you once were and find out what might have felt better at the time? What could have your Mom or Dad say or do, which would have given you a feeling of being seen, heard, and met?

Then, turn around and give this to your adolescent child!

You will be watering many fruit trees with one watering can!

Your own Inner Adolescent would be soothed in the process; You will stop worrying about your child and start making a real connection; Your child may start feeling seen and acknowledged, and may even begin to think of you as a cool parent! (and wasn’t this what you wanted all along?)

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Making Valentine’s with Monica Ashley

When Bryles gets home from school today we plan to gather around the kitchen-turned-craft table to create our annual Valentine cards.   I noticed a “mailbox” of sorts is already waiting in his Waldorf classroom to receive his heartfelt creation.  He’ll make one card to place in the mailbox, and his teacher will ensure that each child goes home with a lovely Valentine.

Waldorf classroom Valentine's mailbox

So…what shall we make as the sure to be treasured, single card one of his friends will take home?  What other cards or small gifts might we make to bestow on family members or teachers?  I’ve got a few good ideas thanks to Monica Ashley, fiber artist, doll maker, and craft teacher extraordinaire.  Last week, Monica brought a few gals together to begin our seasonal crafts.  We made traditional cards (as shown above),  but we also made a few less conventional gifts for our sweeties.  Here are some of the wonderful creations that came out of our experience:

Christy wrapped a vintage wooden spool in green flat felt and then a few wisps of wool roving.  Top it off with a Meyer Imports’ mushroom in the holiday color scheme, and she’s got a perfect gift for her wee, fairy loving daughter…

Kosima decided to make another felt fruit item for her kids who love playing “kitchen.”  This time she didn’t use an etsy pattern — she created her own instead.  Making the cherries out of little heart cut-outs, they now will fit right in as a Valentine’s day treasure.

Monica and Annalyce took the time to finish up incomplete projects planned for other holidays.  Remember that Waldorf doll you had wanted to finish in time for Solstice?  What about that gift you were making for a friend’s birthday.  Valentine’s Day (or Easter!) could be your just the occasion you need to light your fire and get the project done.

Surprise! The doll Monica was working on was a  belated gift for Kosima’s birthday.  She was thrilled to take home this adorable little gnome.

Whatever you feel inspired to create, your friends and family are sure to feel touched by your hand made gift.  Get creative and have fun!

More on Monica Ashley

Monica Ashley is a fiber artist and mother of three.  Monica revels in passing along the delight of designing with wool, and offers classes (complete with supplies) to both children and adults through her studio and local crafting stores such as Cast Away Yarn Shop.

Many local families know Monica through her involvement in the Waldorf community where she has served as a homes chool teacher, tutor, and handwork skills instructor.   “Monica is an incredibly patient and thorough teacher.  She is gentle and encouraging – just what I needed!” shares Annalyce La Source.

Meet Monica and find your inner crafter by signing up for her next class at Cast Away:

When:    Fri, March 2, 5:30pm – 7:30pm
Where:   Cast Away Yarn Shop (map)
Description:
Friday Felting for Adults. We will be needle felting animals. You can choose a duck or a rabbit for Easter or any other animal. Cost of $37 includes all materials.

 

 

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